Father Craig
Jesus praises his father for what has been hidden from the learned
and the wise, but has been revealed to the child-like. We may ask
the question; is Jesus being anti intellectual. From the rest of
what the scriptures tell us about Jesus the answer is no. He is not
dismissing the learned and wise as unworthy of the kingdom because
of the knowledge they have, but because they are not childlike. What
is this quality that children possess that many of the learned and
the wise do not? It is an openness to life and most importantly to
that which is transcendent; truth, beauty and love. Jesus is being
critical of those who have stopped seeking these transcendent qualities
that children are naturally attracted to.
The difficulty with seeking truth, beauty and love is that we can
often find the opposite. Instead of truth we find falsehood, instead
of beauty we find ugliness, and instead of love we find rejection.
The message of Jesus both in what he taught and in the way he lived
his life, was one of being open to all that life offered. Not to
close down when we are disappointed in our seeking of these transcendent
realities, but to remain child-like to the wonder of the world; to
always remain a seeker.
Tony was a seeker. He was someone who was constantly looking for
that which was transcendent. His life was dedicated to beauty. Art
was his passion. He enjoyed every aspect of art. He appreciated the
art that others created and was a life long student of art. He took
great pleasure in teaching his students to appreciate art. Tony loved
to talk about art in all of its many forms. But perhaps his greatest
pleasure came from creating his own art. He filled his life with
the beauty which is to be found in art.
Tony also sought the truth He abhorred anything that was false or
phony. This was true in the world of art but also in every other
aspect of his life. He had an intensity about him that came from
his great desire to know and to understand. To find the truth was
his goal. Not so much the factual truth, though this was important
to him, but more so to find the greater truth in all of life.
Tony was a seeker of love. He loved his wife Kay of 24 years. He
loved his children Michelle, David, Benjamin and Marc. He loved his
grandchildren Jessica and Dylan. And they loved him in return. Tony
and Kay are some of the most hospitable people I have ever known.
Their home is open to all and all were welcomed there with love and
acceptance.
I received a special a Christmas gift this year. It came late Christmas
night when Kay called to see if I could come to OSU hospital, because
Tony had asked to speak with me. In 16 years of ministry, of being
with people who were dying, I have never been with someone who was
so close to death and yet so fully alive. Tony was still seeking,
still wanting to make contact, still loving. He was totally
present to me despite the pain and discomfort that he was in; despite
the fact that he was grieving his own impending death. Being
with Tony that Christmas night was a feeling of great intimacy. I
left that night feeling very honored that he had wanted to see me
and spend time with me at this most important time of his life.
It is my faith that this desire to find what is transcendent does not
end with death, but is fulfilled in death. We were not created to seek
out truth, beauty, and love only to have it frustrated in the end.
I believe that Tony has found what he searched for all of his life.
Robert Serum 17 January, 2004 Dear Family and Friends of Tony Davenport: Just a short while ago, none of could have imagined that we would
soon need to gather together to remember Tony and to celebrate his
wonderful life. We still can't really accommodate ourselves
to losing him. Time just seems out of joint. Many of you from Lancaster may not know that Tony has served Northwood
University in Midland, Michigan for more than a decade as Director
of our Term in Europe. I am a member of that department and
have worked with Tony for all of the years since he began leading
our students to Europe each fall. Tony's predecessor was his
father, William Davenport, who was a wonderful raconteur. When
Bill suggested that Tony should succeed him, we wondered whether
Tony would thrive in the position--he seemed quite reserved when compared
to Bill. But so did most people I suppose. But Tony surprised us. Our students loved him and gave him
almost perfect ratings as a teacher. He fussed over details,
such that I never refused one of his requests, and he always insisted
on the highest standards of behavior. I remember a few of
his biggest challenges in that regard and can tell you that some
of them were the first to call me when news of Tony's passing reached
them. I remember one of them in particular...when he called,
I learned that he is now a corporate vice president who believes
Tony changed his life. More than 500 graduates of Term in
Europe think the same. Tony emerged as a great story teller
himself, and a keen observer, whose performance in recent years has
been so impeccable that he became our idea for what an overseas program
director should be. Tony was also wonderfully adaptive. In the third year of
his leadership, I asked him to accept a return visit invitation from
a school in Germany that had invited us to their campus. Having
grown up in France, he wasn't sure that it made any cultural sense
to waste time in Germany. I told him I wouldn't ask him to
do it twice, but a year later I discovered that he had learned to
speak German and intended thereafter always to include Germany on
his itinerary. I think he discovered they have pretty good
wine in Germany, too. Probably even more important than Tony's professional impact was
his personal impact on people. He was so kind and thoughtful. I
think my wife and I are not the only parents whose children received
wonderful hand-crafted and personalized bowls at their nativity which
become more precious every year. When my assistant, Linda,
was losing her husband to cancer last year, she said that Tony's
call to her was the best one. He told her how meaningful it
has been to him to be the final caregiver when William passed. Every
year he wrote a letter to parents from Europe featuring each participant
in some special way, and always imbued with his special sense of
humor. We often laughed aloud when we read them. When
one of my colleagues, with whom he always stayed when he visited
Midland, told him that her mother was in the hospital, he immediately
announced that he would go there to read to her. He read her
poetry for more than an hour and delighted her so. Whenever
we heard these stories, we always said, "That is so like Tony." I have a high regard for people who LIVE in the present--the only
place where there is life. Most of us drift too much into
the past and the future. But Tony had a gift for living in
the present---not in the sense of carpe diem--but in the sense of
being completely present in the NOW. If you were with him,
you had his attention. Tony had his priorities straight. Whenever I was with him,
he always talked about the importance to him of Kay and their family. In
recalling this, I was reminded of the poem by John Donne in which
he used a compass as a metaphor for his travel. Not the kind
of compass by which you find your way, but as the older of us will
remember, a two-legged instrument with which you draw circles, fixing
the sharp point in the middle. Just as Donne suggested, Kay,
you were Tony's center, no matter where he was. And so was
the rest of your family. Donne called his poem A Valediction
Forbidding Mourning. Tony would probably suggest the same
to us now, but we can't accommodate that standard. And this time, he has gone away beyond returning to a place where,
I suspect, only God can be his Center--yet always connected to us
by love. We miss him very much.
Shun Endo Tony and I worked together, side by side, for the past twentyfour
years. It is rather ironic and as well as it was very fortunate
on my part that I ended up working closely with somebody who had
a very strong interest in oriental art. Tony, who spent a
part of his youth in Europe and his formative years in a truly international
cultural setting, including New York City, Hawaii and Japan eventually
developed a profound and correct understanding of oriental aesthetics. I
use the word correct specifically here because Tony did not commit
the mistake that so many people make. He did not end up with
a misunderstanding of a culture that was not his own. His
mind and eyes must have been so clear and sharp that he could see
all the similarities and differences, not only as a written concept,
but also as visual elements in both western and oriental culture. But through the differences in western and oriental aesthetics,
rather than the similarities, Tony and I were brought together. He
opened my eyes for Japanese pottery as well as for Korean and Chinese
ceramics. His gift with words and articulation of visual qualities
that basically defy the process of articulation itself were a constant
inspiration for me. And we exchanged views on those differences. We
were perhaps a bit shy about the similarities that existed between
us. The similarities that made us feel a sense of vulnerability
because Tony and I understood beauty with strength as well as beauty
with frailty. I was an apprentice to the secret of oriental
pottery through Tony. Formally, once I enrolled in his ceramics
class through which once again I was introduced to the beauty of
the ceramic works of Asia Minor including the works of ancient civilizations
along the Mediterranean coast. And informally, I was a frequent visitor
to his ceramics classes looking for the perfect and the most beautiful
dish from which I could eat Japanese pickles. Tony brought
all these things together and articulated them for me. Through
Tony, I became a born-again Japanese. Although he had a deep appreciation and respect for Japanese pottery,
he must have sensed a weakness of form in Japanese pottery when he
compared it with works from China, and Korea as well as works from
western culture. His artwork expresses first and foremost,
the strength in forms while retaining sensual response to the surface
texture. In this sense, his artwork is sculptural and architectural
with its strong presence of three-dimensionality. His architectural
background was clearly reflected in his treatment of space in his
work. Yet his lines for drawings were evocative and sensual
like those of painters, just like those we can see in his mother's
paintings. He was a sculptor who shared interest and sensibility
with painters. He was a sculptor as well as a potter. He
was an intellectual who at the same time could not resist the temptation
of getting his hands stuck in the mud. During December, I visited Tony a couple of times in his space,
a former church building. On a rare sunny, winter day, Tony
was waiting for me in a small sunroom and the living room was filled
with the rays of light that were coming through the stained glass
windows. I could not help thinking about the days and times
that he must have spent with his parents in their villa in Provence. I
was wishing if only the sun were a bit stronger for him. We
discussed the differences between the space in western church buildings
and the space in Japanese shrines. In this converted church
space, Tony's work seems to response directly to the architectural
tradition of European culture. The space and artwork that
Tony provided for me in those two days were truly memorable and the
purity and the tenderness of the air that surrounded our conversation
will stay with me forever. Eventually, I noticed a beautiful pot on the shelf. Tony
said it was an old Korean pot that was from the collection of his
late father and Tony's dream was to make a pot that would be just
as good as this pot. At this instant, I felt a sense of jealousy
for the accumulation of cultural tradition or succession of aesthetic
heritage of which Tony was a direct recipient as well as he was a
conveyor of this heritage to his family, his students, and to the
people around him. Tony, today I am supposed to represent the branch campus but I do
not think I can do it. Because I do not think the institution
was the important part of our relationship. What existed between
us was: consciously drawn line vs. unconsciously drawn line, intentionally
created shape vs. accidentally created shape, and expected texture
vs. unexpected texture. Tony, you taught me the meaning of
ambiguity in Japanese culture through Japanese pottery. You
exposed me to the richness and depth of European civilization. You
showed me the depth of human intellect. If one's life is not judged by its length, then Tony led a truly
rich life. Still he left us too early. We miss you.
Bruce Altshuler My name is Bruce Altshuler, and Tony has been one of my closest
friends since we met in college. There are many words that
come to mind when I think of him: brilliant, loyal, creative,
generous, eloquent, loving, modest despite his great gifts. But
these words all are so inadequate in the face of his uniqueness,
the vividness of his being, the fullness of his life. For
Tony Davenport was one of the most extraordinary people whom any
of us will ever meet. And knowing him, and being with him,
has enriched our lives immeasurably. Tony came to Princeton with a background of superb academic achievement - his
father Bill told me that he had placed second in all of France in
his high school exams - but Tony was anything but academic in his
approach to education. For despite his passion for knowledge,
Tony wore his learning lightly, with fascinating details of history,
or art, or literature emerging in the course of his conversation,
casual observations and anecdotes casting things in a new and more
meaningful light. He was always mentioning things I should read or
music I should listen to, and when I was here in early December we
were discussing the late Roman Empire - this is the sort of thing
that just came up when you talked with Tony - and he went and found
a book he felt I should read, and of course he gave it to me. Many
of you, I am sure, experienced this wonderful way Tony had of just
giving you things that he thought you might like, or need - from
books to ceramic vessels to a new cleaning product that he had discovered. Tony's wide-ranging curiosity and love of learning, his enthusiasm,
and his kindness, made him the perfect educator, and I envy both
his art students here at Ohio University and the Northwood students
who had the unbelievable good fortune to have Tony as their guide
through Europe. My wife Holly - who currently is in Puerto
Rico with her own student group and thus regretfully could not be
here - wanted me to be sure to mention the importance of what Tony
gave these young people, and how he certainly changed many of their
lives forever. Tony introduced me to so many things, and to so many people. And
by far the most important was his family - his parents Bill and Roselle,
his sister Anne, and of course Kay and their wonderful children. So
much of what Tony was came from Bill and Roselle -- from Bill's social
ease, fascinating talk, and amused recollection of obscure facts,
to Roselle's ecstatic engagement with the beauty that she found all
around her. And from the moment that I met Anne - an eccentric teenager
visited by two of her brother's college friends, who showed us Paris
and whom we in turn took to see the movie Woodstock - I realized
how rich Tony's family environment must have been. Many years
later, when I got to know Kay and saw something of the life that
they had created together here in Lancaster, I was again struck by
the strength and feeling that Tony brought to his family. And
on that visit 5 weeks ago, I happily encountered more of this, with
Tony at the head of the table carving a roast chicken, with Kay and
Marc and Marc's friend Laura coming in, and Michelle stopping by,
and then Laura's brother wandering in the door -- a casual and welcoming
home for their children, and for their friends, and for friends of
their friends. I personally owe Tony so much, in addition to the sheer pleasure
of his friendship. It was through Tony that I learned that one could
experience life in a different way, in a European way, when I joined
him and our friend Marc at the Davenport family home, St. Martin,
in the south of France. There, at that beautiful house, we would
have our relaxed breakfast under the almond tree - the bread and
butter and honey that so often started Tony's morning - and we would
end our day with local cheese and glasses of red wine. (When I was
last here, it was so typical of Tony to describe to me his failing
appetite by saying that he even had lost the desire to eat butter.) And
if it were not for Tony I never would have met my wife, for the chain
of connections that led me to her began at SUNY New Paltz, where
she was a painting student and Tony had gone to study ceramics. When Holly and I were leaving on our last visit, Tony walked us
to the door, and stood at the window looking out as we drove away. I
will always remember how he looked - not so much sad as thoughtful,
knowing that it might well be the last time we saw one another. He
looked so wise, and he so looked beautiful. And I will miss him so
very much.
Marc Rosenthal For Tony It is very hard to be here today talking about Tony, though I really
need to say even these very few words, because he remains so much
a part of me. During my college years, Tony's work, his cosmic wisdom,
his arcane knowledge and his friendship had a huge role in defining
who I was, and who I turned out to be. There are large parts of me
that come right from him. Especially the parts involving food, and
cursing in French. While Tony was totally unconventional in many respects, I have never
met someone more committed to living a civilized life. He really
appreciated civilization; being surrounded by beauty, fine food and
interesting conversation. The proper enjoyment of life was consistently
a priority. He always managed to take the time and care to set up
a wonderful living ambiance, no matter where he was, no matter how
temporary his situation. I think he, more than anyone I know, really
grasped the idea of living in the moment. No matter where Tony set
up camp, he made it special, and every meal he made into a
minor celebration. When I was first getting to know him, I would go to his dorm room,
which he had painted entirely white, walls, ceiling, floor and all
the furniture (something the college really appreciated). He had
built an elaborate wall storage unit (and this was before he had
power tools) which opened up into a small table. There I would share
with him sumptuous lunches that he prepared, of crackers, cheese,
sardines, Warsaw Falcon Polish pickles, Oreo cookies, and, of course,
wine. His room was like an oasis. Something else I've always appreciated about Tony. He was tremendously
eloquent and pretty much fearless when exasperated. I remember, clearly,
a heated exchange he had, over 30 years ago, with an architecture
student who shall remain nameless, called Roy Perlemutter. He said, " Roy,
most people change and change and change until they die; you will
never change until you die." It was a really good line, and I've
remembered it all these years, but now I think he was wrong; most
people aren't that open to change all their lives. I think Tony actually
was. He was insatiably curious, and engaged. Always reading
new books, eager to exchange ideas. Tony was a good influence on
me. When I spent time with him, I read more, I thought more, and
I made more Art. Tony taught me how to make an omelet, to appreciate opera, and to
love France. I will really miss him. --Marc Bernie Nolan We are all united here today, not only in our desire to pay our
respects to Tony, but our need to do so. We mourn his passing,
but most of all we celebrate his life. Even though he was
only granted part of a life, he lived it to the fullest. We
feel cheated that he was taken from us but yet we must be grateful
that he came along. Mary and I first visited Tony and Kay's home on Main Street more
than twenty years ago. We discovered it to be a home cum artists
atelier. The large room was filled with the most wonderful
art: many framed paintings in oils and acrylics hung on the walls. There
were beautiful ceramics and sculptures, on tables, on stands, and
on the floor. Many of these were works in progress. And
in the midst of all this, standing at the stove, cooking, was Tony
who came and welcomed us with open arms and a great smile. Tony
was very charming. This was the home where Tony and Kay generously hosted many dinners
for those of us who were lucky enough to be their friends. With
them we alternated get-togethers in our home, or in Nancy and Jim
Barrett's. We spent many, many pleasant evenings over the
year with Kay and Tony, Nancy and Jim, Carol Heisey, Marlana, the
Benedicts, and many other friends. Tony usually prepared the
salad in one of the large beautiful ceramic bowls of his own creation. One
had to be careful about admiring his work because on more than one
occasion we found it wrapped on our doorstep the following morning
with a short note from Tony. This was typical of his kindness. At those dinners, we were captivated by Tony's erudite observations
and his diverse interests. The conversation, quite often set
in motion by Tony, would cover a wide range of subjects, including Art, History,
Politics, Movies, World Religions, and others. And, I must
admit, or should I say "confess", that on occasion at those dinners,
the combination of the congenial atmosphere, the wit, the repartee.....and
the wine, caused us to become a little more loquacious. Tony was a great teacher, especially of art. Those of you
who heard his lectures are aware of the fact that he had a way of
explaining works of art that allowed you to understand and appreciate
it more. He had a great love of music and poetry. On
one occasion he and I were chatting in their kitchen, when something
reminded him of a poem. He leaned back on his chair and quoted,
spontaneously, from beginning to end, a wonderful poem by W B Yeats,
called "Sailing to Byzantium". He relished every word as if
they were intoxicating delicacies. I have never forgotten
his voice as he recited. I will read the final verse of this
poem because Tony loved it so much: Once out of nature I shall never take
My bodily form from any natural
thing.
But such a form as Grecian
goldsmiths make
Of hammered gold and gold
enameling
That keeps a drowsy emperor awake:
Or set upon a golden bough to
sing
To lords and ladies of Byzantium
Of what is past, or passing, or
to come. I am sure that those of you who knew him well can picture him, sitting
there with his eyes half-closed, reciting, as if transfixed by the
artistic imagery and the sensual music of the words. At this time of year we always think of the delight Tony took in
ringing in the New Year, using the large bell from the old Luthern
Church. We wish we could have had many more New Years together. Thank you Tony for enriching us spiritually and intellectually. Thank
you Kay for sharing Tony with us and for allowing us to participate
in the celebration of a wonderful life.
David Graetz We have heard some inspiring stories of the roles that Tony has
played in many of our lives. We have heard of Tony as an artist,
friend, coworker, confidant, and professional. But that is
only the tip of the iceberg if you'll allow me that analogy. Tony
was a family man. Tony was the anchor for the family consisting
of his parents and sister, and Tony was the anchor for the family
he created right here in Lancaster. Tony's devotion to his mother and father are legendary. Although
I saw Bill and Roselle only yearly as I grew up I always felt thoroughly
connected with them because of Tony's constant regaling of Bill and
Roselle stories. He loved them, he admired them, he respected
them, and he was truly devoted to them. I will never forget
the loving tribute he gave to Roselle at an introspective of her
art career here at the Hammond Gallery in 1992. He spoke for
nearly an hour on her artwork and technique. It was suppose
to be a fairly typical and technical review of an artists' work - but
this was his mother and there was nothing typical about it. Roselle
was there and I remember watching her and seeing the pure joy and
love in her eyes as her son showered her with affection in a way
that only Tony could, that is, Tony could review her artwork both
in an academic way and as a son who just simply loved his mother
and her work. Every mother out there deserves to have that
look. Tony was a family man. I hope you will all forgive me for talking about another death,
but I have an insightful story of Tony and his father. I wasn't
around Lancaster or France at the time of Bill Davenport's death,
but I was corresponding with Tony via email. A few weeks after
Bill died, Tony wrote me an email describing the death process he
had just gone through with his own father. He described his
own pain that he went through as he watched Bill slowly deteriorate
to the point of making incoherent statements and confusing Tony with
the reality that was going on within Bill's dying mind - and more
to the point, Tony tried to described the helplessness and sadness
that he was experiencing. You see, it was irrelevant to Tony that
his very own father was unable to separate reality and the visions
associated with death - it just didn't matter. Tony loved
his father unconditionally. This was not some moral conviction
about right and wrong that Tony had, rather it was an act of pure
love. An act so pure that it may appear simple, or even insignificant. But
it was neither. Having helped watch after Tony during his
death, I can assure you that such an act is certainly not simple;
and the significance of such an act is one in which the rewards are
not physically tangible. In any case, during the email exchange
I had with Tony I came to realize that he wasn't necessarily emailing
me to tell me the specifics of his father's death and his feelings,
but more so to tell me that he simply loved Bill. I think
Tony was troubled by the fact that he wasn't sure if Bill understood
him during his final days. I'm unable to put my finger on
it, but something about that statement epitomizes my view of how
much Tony loved his father. Put it this way, I think everyone
here knows about Bill Davenport and not necessarily from first-hand
account. In all my years of knowing Bill [or Roselle] there
was never any question of the two-way street of adoration between
them [him] and Tony. And yet, here is Tony telling me he isn't
sure if Bill really knew how much he loved him. Tony was a
family man. Tony's arrival in Lancaster was soon "accentuated" with his marriage
to Kay. Recall that in 1979 Tony was single with no kids and
by the end summer 1980 Tony is the parent and stepparent of 4 kids! Here
I am standing in front of you - I'm 35 with no kids (please don't
harass my mother about this) - and here was Tony, at age 29, going
from 0-to-4 in just about 2 years! What makes a man
do this? In Tony's case the answer is 3 letters - K...A...Y. Tony
didn't just love Kay - he loved being Kay's husband. He loved
being Kay's friend. And he loved being the father of Kay's
children. Tony and Kay's relationship is one which I think
many of us will try to duplicate. Why that is so could be
answered with many findings - because they were always kind to each
other; because they were kind to their children; because they were
kind to their friends...who knows! And actually, it doesn't
matter why, it just matters that when I think about the relationship
that Tony and Kay had, I want that as a goal for my own relationship
and that's probably one of the best compliments that a child can
give his parents. Tony was a family man. As with most deaths we are all left here reflecting back on the
life of someone and wishing we had said this or that in an attempt
to fill the void left behind. Tony is certainly no exception. We
will all be walking up to the edge of this void...this chasm... that
Tony's early death has left. As we stand at that edge and
start to build a bridge across that chasm I would like to propose
that the foundation of that bridge is the stone that reads "Tony
was a family man".
Susan Peirce Tony received this poem from Anne and was touched by its beauty. I read it today in her behalf - only a part of an incredibly complex
poignant
and
on-going
Good-bye. From The Funeral by John Donne Whoever comes to shroud me, do not harm,
Nor
question much,
That subtle
wreath of hair, which crowns my arm ;
The mystery, the sign, you must
not touch ;
For
'tis my outward soul,
Viceroy
to that, which then to heaven being gone,
Will
leave this to control
And
keep these limbs, her provinces, from dissolution. |